While the scripture does not talk about oral sex, the question of whether it is a sin still exists among many Christians. Contrary to the belief of many, the scripture is not prudish on matters concerning sexual intimacy.
Some verses in the Bible describe sexual intimacy through poetic metaphors. Many people would term these descriptions of sex in the Bible as graphic content.
However, what guidance do Christians have concerning oral sex? Is oral sex a sin?
Though the Bible does not explicitly address oral sex, some biblical principles can guide Christians concerning oral sex. Some bible scholars argue that oral sex is a sin, while others note that it is not a sin and is even celebrated in the book of Songs of Solomon. For those who believe that it is a sin, they hold on to the teachings of the scripture that note that there should be no hint of sexual immorality among Christians.
So, is oral sex before marriage a sin? Is oral sex a sin within marriage? What does the Bible say about oral sex? What Bible verses teach about oral sex? Does God approve of oral sex?
Keep reading to find out the answers to these questions and more.
Is oral sex before marriage a sin?
The question of whether oral sex before marriage is a sin has become so common among young Christians. Most young people are told that oral sex is not sex and is much safe as they do not risk getting pregnant, and the chances of getting sexually transmitted diseases are low.
However, what the scripture is clear about is that sex before marriage is a sin. Several bible scholars and theologians differ on the view concerning this question.
Most scholars agree that oral sex or any type of sex before marriage is a sin. The Bible says in Ephesians 5:3, “but sexual immorality and all impurity or covetousness must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints.”
1st Corinthians 7:2 says, “But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband.” This means that God created sex for marriage only.
Additionally, when the scripture talks about sexual immorality, it refers to any engagement in sexual contact before or outside of marriage.
Additionally, the Bible requires Christians to engage in behaviors that are honorable and bring glory to God. Though oral sex might not be wrong in a marriage, it is not helpful in the growth of an unmarried Christian, as it is deemed as sexual immorality.
Therefore, if these verses are anything to by, oral sex is sinful outside marriage.
Is oral sex a sin within marriage?
Many Christian married couples wonder what is allowed or disallowed sexually between a wife and the husband. Many scholars also have divided stand on this; others consider it a sin while others argue it is not.
The Bible requires a husband and wife to fulfill the sexual needs of each other so long as there is mutual consent.
1st Corinthians 7:5 says, “do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.”
Additionally, if oral sex is done in marriage out of love and not lust, it is not a sin. Therefore, while oral sex in marriage is not necessarily a sin, it should not be a justifiable substitute for young Christians out of marriage to fulfill their sexual desires.
What does the Bible say about oral sex?
The Bible does not mention anything about oral sex. However, it condemns the sin of sexual immorality, which include any sexual engagement outside marriage, like oral sex.
The scripture in the book of 1st Thessalonians 4:3-5 says, “It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the pagans, who do not know God.”
The book of Ephesians 5:3 also warns believers from engaging in any kind of sexual immorality. “But among you, there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or greed, because there are improper for God’s holy people.”
Any sexual engagement was created for married couples, and the Bible does not address oral sex as sinful in the confines of marriage, as written in 1 Corinthians 7:3-5.
What Bible verses teach about oral sex?
As mentioned above, sex within marriage is wholly allowed in Christianity. And though the Bible does not explicitly address oral sex, some verses with biblical principles guide us in determining whether we should participate in oral sex or not.
1st Corinthians 7:3-5 says, “The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs. The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband gives authority over his body to his wife. Do not deprive each other of sexual relations unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer. Afterward, you should come together again so that Satan won’t e able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control.”
Songs of Solomon 1:2-3 says, “Like a lily among the thorns, so is my darling among the maidens. Like an apple tree among the trees of the forest, so is my beloved among the young men. I delight to sit in his shade, and his fruit is sweet to my taste.”
Songs of Solomon 8:1-2 notes, “O that thou wert as my brother that sucked the breasts of my mother! When should I find thee without, I would kiss thee; yea, I should not be despised. I would lead thee and bring thee into my mother’s house, who would instruct me: I would cause thee to drink of spiced wine of the juice of my pomegranate.”
1st Corinthians 6:18 says, “Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually sins against their own body.”
Hebrews 13:4 goes ahead and comments on sexual intimacy, “Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.”
Galatians 5:19-20, “when you follow the desires of your sinful nature, the results are very clear: sexual immorality, impurity, lustful pleasures, idolatry. Sorcery, hostility, quarreling, jealousy, an outburst of anger, selfish ambition, dissension, division, envy, drunkenness, wild parties, and other sins like these. Let me tell you again, as I have before, that anyone living that sort of life will not inherit the kingdom of God.”
Does God approve of oral sex?
What God approves is sex within marriage. The Bible does not mention oral sex anywhere, though there are biblical principles regarding sex that should help us know God’s view concerning oral sex.
Oral sex in marriage is not a sin, as the Bible requires a husband to fulfill the sexual desires of his wife and the wife fulfilling the desires of the husband.
The book of Proverbs 5:18-19 says, “May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer, let her breasts fill you at all times with delight; be intoxicated always in her love.”
That means that for a married couple, oral sex is part of fulfilling the sexual needs of your partner. However, for those who are not married, God urges us through the scripture to flee from any kind of sexual immorality.
The scripture notes that the sin of sexual immorality is like sinning against your body, as all other sins except this happen outside of the body.
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